I'm sure I'm not alone in experiencing those times in a relationship, where no matter what you do you just can't seem to get it right, and regardless of your optimistic presents an unconditional love, it just seems like it's time for a relationship fight.
You know what I'm talking about. That's those times when your partner just wakes up on the wrong side of the bed, and there is nothing you can do or song you can sing, to bring them out of that mood until after you've had at least a small confrontation.
Personally, I believe this is just part of the healthy nature of any strong relationship. That sometimes we just need a little variety, and often times a relationship is the first place we seek to find it. Though it for the most part you relationship to his based from mutual respect and positive perspectives, than when it comes time that you are your partner have reached your limit for certainty, that little "10%" that I've talked about in previous posts, is going to be the days when it's just under fight.
Now I'm not suggesting that you should actually type of your partner, at least not that you should get all aggressive and pull ucture big red clown gloves. Instead, I suggest you follow a tactic that I found to be quite effective to get through the turmoil tornado that your spouse or significant other seems to be going through.
I call it, " 3 hours."
It's actually quite as simple method, and no one requires is your patience and good humor. You see, both you and your partner can connect rel emotional cycle, in which we need nothing more than the support of our lover. With the " 3 hours" message the basic idea is that once you've noticed the partner's upset, you need to immediately, regardless of what chaos is going on around you or inside you, stop and give them your complete attention for the next 3 hours. Now, depending on your partner cycles, there may be some drop off's where they need to wander off or you need to take a break from their emotional tides, though for the most part regardless of whether you purposefully give your time, or you just allow them to wrap you up for the next 3 hours, when we're another touch with cannot happen anyways.
The difference between the " 3 hours" method and would normally happens, is that when you purposefully give your unconditional time to your partner, regardless of what is going on around you, you send a signal to them, that they're safe within the relationship you to have and it also shows that you understand that they just simply need you, even if they don't know why.
And during this 3 hour period, it's important that you remind yourself that what they say or do rarely has anything to do with you, and it's mostly just a product of their natural emotional cycles in combination with their current level of stress. It could be work, or the kids, those darn bills or even just an unexpected bad mood.
Honestly, in my opinion, it really doesn't matter what the source of the problem is, because only way you're going to really uncover the source of the challenge, is by not losing your head and falling into the trap of fighting unfairly because you felt that attacked by your partner's foul mood.
This might not all make sense, from the simple of a blog, though I can tell you that the best thing you can do when your partner appears to be upset for no apparent reason, is to simply sit back and remind yourself "3 hours... 3 hours... 3 hours...."
You know what I'm talking about. That's those times when your partner just wakes up on the wrong side of the bed, and there is nothing you can do or song you can sing, to bring them out of that mood until after you've had at least a small confrontation.
Personally, I believe this is just part of the healthy nature of any strong relationship. That sometimes we just need a little variety, and often times a relationship is the first place we seek to find it. Though it for the most part you relationship to his based from mutual respect and positive perspectives, than when it comes time that you are your partner have reached your limit for certainty, that little "10%" that I've talked about in previous posts, is going to be the days when it's just under fight.
Now I'm not suggesting that you should actually type of your partner, at least not that you should get all aggressive and pull ucture big red clown gloves. Instead, I suggest you follow a tactic that I found to be quite effective to get through the turmoil tornado that your spouse or significant other seems to be going through.
I call it, " 3 hours."
It's actually quite as simple method, and no one requires is your patience and good humor. You see, both you and your partner can connect rel emotional cycle, in which we need nothing more than the support of our lover. With the " 3 hours" message the basic idea is that once you've noticed the partner's upset, you need to immediately, regardless of what chaos is going on around you or inside you, stop and give them your complete attention for the next 3 hours. Now, depending on your partner cycles, there may be some drop off's where they need to wander off or you need to take a break from their emotional tides, though for the most part regardless of whether you purposefully give your time, or you just allow them to wrap you up for the next 3 hours, when we're another touch with cannot happen anyways.
The difference between the " 3 hours" method and would normally happens, is that when you purposefully give your unconditional time to your partner, regardless of what is going on around you, you send a signal to them, that they're safe within the relationship you to have and it also shows that you understand that they just simply need you, even if they don't know why.
And during this 3 hour period, it's important that you remind yourself that what they say or do rarely has anything to do with you, and it's mostly just a product of their natural emotional cycles in combination with their current level of stress. It could be work, or the kids, those darn bills or even just an unexpected bad mood.
Honestly, in my opinion, it really doesn't matter what the source of the problem is, because only way you're going to really uncover the source of the challenge, is by not losing your head and falling into the trap of fighting unfairly because you felt that attacked by your partner's foul mood.
This might not all make sense, from the simple of a blog, though I can tell you that the best thing you can do when your partner appears to be upset for no apparent reason, is to simply sit back and remind yourself "3 hours... 3 hours... 3 hours...."
